At the end of last year I made a big decision. It had been coming for a long time but I’d been resisting it. But the moment I’d made it and more importantly had taken action on it I could start to feel my whole being shifting.
Why is it sometimes so hard to come to a decision?
In this case after 7 incredibly intense and in-depth years of training one-to-one in a method of working with dreams as a bridge to the Self I decided to stop working with my teacher. It may be a permanent thing, it may simply be a re-adjustment- but towards the end of last year I just knew I needed to stop.
What’s one of the easiest and best ways to unite the people in the room into a cohesive whole?
Surprisingly it is to tell a bad joke- when it’s done well it puts everyone at ease and gets them on side.
This is partly because catching the eye of the person next to you and connecting in mutually agreed superiority (to the joke teller) is a great way to bond.
But it also does something that goes completely against one of our big societal norms- the need to be right, do things well and be consistent.
As a friend (irritatingly) said to me about 10 years ago when I was complaining about a relationship (you see I still remember- I was that irritated)- ‘you’d rather be right than happy.’ Gah!
A while back I used to have a friend who lived in my area. She had just sold her house for £4.5 million pounds and yet every time I saw her she was complaining about not knowing where to put her money. She was so stressed about it and she could talk about nothing else. Every single time we met!
While we may not be in quite as extreme a situation as my friend, we can often to relate to how in a period of high stress we lose touch with the good things that we have going on and can only seem to focus on the bad.
To see why we do this happens it’s useful to think about what stress is.